Hello Hagen family!
Plaza Midwood and NoDa *are* good places to settle. However, traffic all over town can be miserable. You don't say where your wife will be working. I'd strongly suggest trying to be close to her work or yours if you know where you'll be working.
I moved from Merry Oaks (almost Plaza Midwood) to the Cotswold area several years ago and like it very much as well. I'd avoid south Charlotte and the University areas if i were you. Just FYI, I've been here most of the years between 1970 and now, so a rare long time resident. You'll likely meet more people from Buffalo than native Charlotteans...
Hope this helps!
Robbi Meador